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I hope I'm not being a bad mommy...

  • Mar. 16th, 2008 at 2:26 PM

daisy_knotwise
There are many things I must do today. But Katie is having a nap. Roper is home, (vacuuming the basement, actually.) The sun is shining. And I am going out for a while. I'm not sure where I'm going or what I am going to do, but I need to get out and not be in charge of anything but me.

GHR
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markbernstein
Mar. 16th, 2008 07:47 pm (UTC)
Please listen, as this is important. You are, without question, being a good mommy. Why? Because mommies and daddies are human beings, and have limits. You must make a habit of setting aside time for yourself, so you can recharge. That's what makes it possible to deal with everything the rest of the time.

No guilt. None. Nothing to be guilty about.
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oreouk
Mar. 16th, 2008 08:51 pm (UTC)
Exactly what he said. I hope you had fun.

Put another way, did you think Roper was being a bad Daddy when he went to England in February?
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spiritdance
Mar. 16th, 2008 09:45 pm (UTC)
Heh.

Gretchen and I were plotting on the way to and from Gafilk. Plotting to go to England or Germany without the kids or husbands :-)

I suspect it'll be at least 2010 before that happens, with the stage both families are at.
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oreouk
Mar. 16th, 2008 09:59 pm (UTC)
Yay! I look forward to seeing you both, come the day.

Maybe one day we ought to plot a Momcon - somewhere East Coast-y and encourage as many fannish Moms as possible to attend sans kids and husbands :-) Somewhere with a swimming pool and a hot tub...
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kestrels_nest
Mar. 17th, 2008 03:43 am (UTC)
Now that is a wonderful idea!
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spiritdance
Mar. 17th, 2008 03:07 pm (UTC)
Ooooh, good idea!
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oreouk
Mar. 17th, 2008 09:42 pm (UTC)
now we just need to wait for Roper and Glasser child twos to both be old enough for us to do this (and neither of you to move on to child threes) and we can check finances and do it. Remind me! Our finances may even be robust enough for me to manage it by the time babyroper2 is a year or two old :-)
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daisy_knotwise
Mar. 17th, 2008 11:26 pm (UTC)
There will be no three for us. No more embryos in the freezer.
I really like the MommyCon idea.
Let's see what we can do...

GHR
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oreouk
Mar. 18th, 2008 10:27 pm (UTC)
Yay! hatching plans for several years down the line :-) :-)
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spiritdance
Mar. 18th, 2008 12:42 am (UTC)
We have Taken Measures to ensure that we are stopping with the two we have :-)
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oreouk
Mar. 18th, 2008 10:27 pm (UTC)
Grin. It is my firm belief that two is the right number as I have two hands and thus can cope with that many.
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drzarron
Mar. 16th, 2008 09:05 pm (UTC)
Sanity time is VERY imporant. You EARNED these moments, revel in them. You have to feel you're not lock at home, not anchored to you child. To a little unscructured "ME" time is vitally important.
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spiritdance
Mar. 16th, 2008 09:43 pm (UTC)
It's amazing what even 20 to 30 minutes child-free will do for your attitude.

There's a reason that David goes to daycare. That, and he really, really likes it. He's been asking yesterday and today to go see "BarbieJane" (his two teachers).
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mia_mcdavid
Mar. 16th, 2008 09:45 pm (UTC)
Good mommy!
You are giving yourself time to re-create; don't ever let go of that. If you don't take care of yourself, there won't be anything left of you for taking care of those who need you.

Cheers!
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singlemaltsilk
Mar. 16th, 2008 10:27 pm (UTC)
I see you with Katie, I know you're a good mommy. BTW, I'm usually in the office weekdays, but if you ever feel like getting together for lunch on the weekends, give me a call and we'll pick a place somewhere in the middle :)
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ms_dblk
Mar. 16th, 2008 11:51 pm (UTC)
You're certainly not a bad mommy - but if you don't take time to be only in charge of you, you'll become one. Try to SCHEDULE some "me" time each week. It doesn't have to be a long time, but all folks need "me" time (even those of us whose kids are no longer at home).

Hope you had a nice "me" time!
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daddy_guido
Mar. 17th, 2008 03:55 am (UTC)
Good Mommy.

Bad mommy is when you duct tape the baby to Roper, and then Roper to a chair so you can go drink at the bar and hit the casino.
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decadentdave
Mar. 17th, 2008 06:34 am (UTC)
Sanity breaks are absolute necessities. If possible you should actually schedule them in on a fairly frequent basis. Going out for a full massage just because it feels good or taking in a decadently luxurious spa visit makes a good sanity break don't you think? Both K and B will be glad you take these little sanity breaks and so will you. Coming back physically and mentally refreshed will make you an even better mom than you already are, trust me on that one.
Hugs.
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carolf
Mar. 17th, 2008 08:31 pm (UTC)
I agree with what every one else says. Part of good parenting is doing things to keep yourself well enough to care for your baby. Tired, stressed out, bored ... these conditions lead to really bad head spaces, and bad head spaces can lead to bad, if not dangerous, mommies.

That said: You deserve the break. Not because you need it. Not because it's important to do for your family.

You deserve the break. Period. YOU deserve it.

Go you.
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