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A bunch of small unrelated items...

1)It gets confusing when sometimes the enter key is "move to the next line" and sometimes it is "register this data".

2)I am soooo bad about birthdays and things. Many Happies, Cary and Greg!

3)Do we ever stop to think, when we are in a situation where we feel we are getting no respect, that it might be because we are giving no respect?

4)What should you do when somebody that you deal with on a fairly regular basis, co-worker, friend, family member, what have you, routinely uses an expression that you find annoying? It's not obscene. It's not hate speech, it's just sort of disrespectful. And it's not even directed at you, but a third party not in the conversation. Should you call them on it? or just suck it up and ignore it?



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Jul. 10th, 2006 08:15 pm (UTC)
4) It depends on the word. I try to call people on the use of the word "gyp," for instance. Most people don't realize its origin and the fact that it is an ethnic slur.
Jul. 11th, 2006 03:19 am (UTC)
I confess I was well into adulthood before I internalized that it wasn't spelled jip.
I also couldn't figure out what not making good on a bet had to do with grape juice.

Jul. 10th, 2006 08:20 pm (UTC)
I call them on it. I've done it on several occasions and the people I've approached with it have actually tried to make a concious effort around me to use a different expression.
Jul. 10th, 2006 08:29 pm (UTC)
I'd explain how it makes me feel when they use the offending word or phrase in my presence. The behaviour may or may not change, but it *absolutely* won't change if you remain silent.
Jul. 10th, 2006 09:15 pm (UTC)
3. Do you think the same might apply to appreciation?

4. Depending on what type of relationship I had with them I'd talk to them. Just a casual, you know when you say "XYZ" I feel really uncomfortable. I'd appreciate it if you'd try not to use it around me. Thanks! you know low key and low stress.
Jul. 10th, 2006 11:24 pm (UTC)
4) I generally give the perpetrator of such behavior an odd look, and ask for clarification. "What do you mean by '....'?" And let them explain. That usually cures the problem. By the time they've told me why they're using the semi-insulting phrase, they've decided on their own to stop using it.
Jul. 11th, 2006 02:49 am (UTC)
2. thanks!

3. dunno - I _always_ get respect (grin)

4. What am i saying that annoys you?

Jul. 11th, 2006 03:08 am (UTC)
Now, , how could anything YOU say offend anyone? ;-)

If we all thought about how everyone offends us, how could anyone in the world get along with one another? This is a religious saying, but LOVE does cover a multitude ... of what? Perhaps Love is greater than the offense.

If we were in England, it would be considered rude to say anything because you would probably make the other person feel badly - especially if it were a minor little thing.

If someone were saying something disrespectful about me behind my back, I know that I would like the listener to follow up that comment with something nice about me - something that might defend me in my absense. If you continually did this, perhaps the speaker would eventually get the hint?
Jul. 11th, 2006 03:17 am (UTC)
Dear, if it were you I would have no compunction about telling you to quit it.
That's one of the reasons I love you.

Jul. 11th, 2006 03:32 am (UTC)
me too,

and thank you for the birthday wish...
Jul. 11th, 2006 03:39 pm (UTC)
oh, so THAT'S what the rolled-up newspaper is for....
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