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Polling the Delegation #1

Is it "quitting" (and therefore less than honorable) to get out of a difficult situation just because it is difficult?

I have given the new ownership of the bank a little better than a year. I'm still working more hours than I want to on an impossible to predict schedule and doing things that I don't enjoy.

I think it's time to move on. But a snaky little voice in the back of my mind whispers that I'm being a quitter.

What do you think?

(And before you give me the lecture. My boss and his boss know how I feel.)

GHR

Comments

tollers
Apr. 7th, 2006 06:25 pm (UTC)
It is definitely not less than honorable to leave a position which continues to be suboptimal, after having discussed the problems with the people capable of making change.

Debbie G's theory of worklife... It's not reasonable to expect work to be enjoyable all the time, but when it starts being unenjoyable most of the time, then it's time to be looking for something else. For some people, that's a change in job. For others, it's a change in career.

I even tell my staff this. They know _I_ live by it, and they know I expect them to live by it. We spend too much of our adult life at work... we should not be doing it somewhere that makes us unhappy. (This is, of course, a best-of-all-worlds scenario, ignoring things like "I had to take a job in fast food in order to not go bankrupt" ... some things can't be helped, but they're also not generally expected to be long-term.)

My personal benchmark... if I find myself, on a regular basis, not wanting to get out of bed, because getting up would mean admitting that it's time to go to work, then I know it's time to look for something else. My feeling that way about my previous job (which had many things to recommend it, including excellent benefits and decent salary) is what led me to my current job, which is about as close to my definition of The Perfect Job as I'm likely to find. Does it still suck sometimes? Oh, hell yeah... especially now in the blizzard of paperwork that accompanies fiscal year-end. Do I dread coming in? Only very rarely, and seldom for more than a couple of days in a row.
daisy_knotwise
Apr. 7th, 2006 10:30 pm (UTC)
Hell, I'm to the point of not wanting to go to bed because that makes morning come all the sooner.

GHR
tollers
Apr. 7th, 2006 10:49 pm (UTC)
Then you're well past time. Decide how much notice you want to give and do it. Or, if you need to have something else lined up before you give notice, start actively looking. Tell your boss, if you have to, so that you can take odd times off to go interview, and tell him/her why (thereby giving them one more chance to make things right in the current position). (I did this, when I interviewed for this job. Boss was at national sales convention and I was supposed to be helping coworker hold down the office. Coworker knew I was interviewing and I didn't think it was fair to make him lie for me. So I called boss... told him I was taking Wednesday off. He said no. I said "Yes... I have a job interview... I'll be back on Thursday." He said "Guh...ubbb errrr... well, okay." Ultimately, we were both happier, 'cause my work style and his management style clashed horribly... so my leaving gave him a chance to get someone who fit better in his structure.)

Unfortunately, when things are sucky at work, you'll almost undoubtedly feel like you've "abandoned" your coworkers or left them somehow in the lurch. The best you can do is give a reasonable amount of notice, do your best to train your replacement (if they get one hired before you leave), and then do what you need to do. While loyalty is A Good Thing, you're not responsible for them... they are. And if enough people walk, Management/Ownership will eventually be forced to buy a clue.

And when you _do_ give notice? Take a deep breath and take time to enjoy the feeling of satisfaction. Yes, it will be sandwiched in between the sadness of leaving coworkers that you like and all kinds of other mixed emotions that come with leaving one job and moving on to something new, but it will be there and it will feel good. Then go home and enjoy a really good night's sleep. :-)
jerusha
Apr. 17th, 2006 05:35 am (UTC)
Get out. Seriously. Get out.

I pushed it to "sitting in the parking lot in the morning crying because I so badly didn't want to get out of the car and go in to work". Then I spent two weeks in the inpatient Psych ward and a lot of recovery after that - and in ways I'm still not entirely well. And that was six years ago. The really stupid thing? I pushed that hard because I knew my co-workers would have to shoulder my work if I quit. Well, I didn't quit. I worked until I literally couldn't any more. And then they still had to shoulder my load. Would that I had been smarter and quit sooner.

Don't push yourself that far. Don't hurt yourself like that. Get out.

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