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OK, I must clarify!

I have not yet read all of the resopnses to my last post. I slept like crap last night, had to go to the eye dr. and have a very messy house to clean and deviled eggs to make. I will go back and finish when I am more clear headed.

BUT I WANT TO CLARIFY

I did not say nor meant to imply that "Cool Kids" are bad people. They are the people who sparkle.
Most of them are lovely people. They have to be or they wouldn't sparkle.
A small proportion take advantage of their sparklyness and dominate conversation or circles or are rude because they are easily forgiven because of their sparklyness. But that is a SMALL proportion.

If the sparkelers were bad we wouldn't want to be them.

They are the people who are noticed and remembered.
Sparklers tend to hang with other sparklers.
Some times they get so wrapped up in their mutual sparklyness, they make the rest of us feel left out. That's not their fault, it just is what happens.

You can't make yourself into a Cool Kid. You can try, but you usually end up looking like a pompous nit.

The frustration comes not from the fact that "they" sparkle, but that "we" don't.


I am not upset that "you" are a Cool Kid.
I am upset that I am not and don't know how to become one.
ANd that is nobody's fault but mine.

Comments

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fireskin
Oct. 27th, 2006 07:04 pm (UTC)
Well, the only way to become a sparkler is for someone else to make it so. You CAN'T do it yourself. That is the problem.

So, because I know there are HUNDREDS of people out there who think you are a cool kid...

(paphs you with her sparkly wand) I herein dub thee "COOL". And you are, you know. Even when it's hard for you to see it. I think most of us can't see it when it's us.
filkerdave
Oct. 27th, 2006 07:11 pm (UTC)
Errr...you're not?

I think you're pretty cool.
ohiblather
Oct. 27th, 2006 07:40 pm (UTC)
You do so sparkle.

filkerdave
Oct. 27th, 2006 07:56 pm (UTC)
Love it!
exapno
Oct. 27th, 2006 08:02 pm (UTC)
EXACTLY :)

and put perfectly too :)
tollers
Oct. 27th, 2006 07:55 pm (UTC)
Mmmm... devilled eggs... now I'm hungry! :-)

I've mentioned this to Barry and Sally but probably didn't think to tell you... One of the things I really enjoyed at Thing was that I got to spend time chatting with you and that I got to hear you sing more than you're able to when you're merching all weekend. Really having more time to get to know you and Bill and Erica was one of the high points of that weekend for me!
filkertom
Oct. 27th, 2006 08:24 pm (UTC)
Not sure what to say. I think you're fine, you're well-known, and etc. You may not be Teh Hot Star du Jour, but you're a valued member of the community -- certainly my part of it.

There are, perhaps, people who are more outgoing than you. More openly social. Musically, there are people who are trying new styles and new performance techniques. Whereas you are the same ol' Gretchen, hi, hug, and singing things much the same way as you always did.

This is not a bad thing. And it does not make you "uncool". It merely means that, for whatever reasons, at certain moments you perceive some people as getting more attention than you. So, I guess, the question becomes, would you like more attention from your peers, and how might you go about getting it? (Please note that, generally speaking, I am the third-to-last person you want answering this question for you, the first two being wormquartet and lukeski. ;)

Remember, my sentimental friend, that a heart is not judged by how much you love, but by how much you are loved by others. And, from an informal poll, I think you're doin' okay on that. [preview of hugs at WindyCon]
barbarakitten_t
Oct. 27th, 2006 08:58 pm (UTC)
gretchen, i wsn't going to say anything, because i think you're cool...not in a sparkly way, but in a warm, patient and productive way and i'm not sure my opinion matters all that much. however, tom's reply brought tears to my eyes...and i wanted to let you know.
ohiblather
Oct. 27th, 2006 09:43 pm (UTC)
On a non-sparkly topic, could you possibly point me to a good deviled egg recipe? I've always wanted to try them, and there are xmas gatherings coming up.
daisy_knotwise
Oct. 27th, 2006 10:06 pm (UTC)
Never have used a recipe, as per.
I hard boil eggs, peel them, cut them in half and throw the yolks into a bowl.
Then I get creative. Usually I throw in some minced onion (reconstituted), some sweet relish, a dash of salt and a touch of mustard. Then add enough sour cream to make it all stick together. Most recipes call for mayo or Miracle Whip. Roper doesn't like the white death, so I found sour cream works just as well.
You drop (or pipe) a glob of the yolk mixture back into the white and garnish. A dash of paprica makes it festive and just a hint of spicy.
A dash of paprica and a touch of parsley or cilantro makes it Christmassy.
This time, since they are for a Halloween party, I'm going to top them with a slice of black olive. Makes 'em look like eye balls.

GHR
ohiblather
Oct. 27th, 2006 10:08 pm (UTC)
Thanks for this info!

What kind of mustard? Yellow or Dijon or powdered or...?

Now I'm hungry.
ohiblather
Oct. 27th, 2006 10:09 pm (UTC)
And what is reconstituted minced onion?
ohiblather
Oct. 27th, 2006 10:12 pm (UTC)
And when you say "a dash of paprika", did you mean sprinkle it on top or in the mixture? Apologies for all the questions, but you're talking to someone who relies heavily on recipes; I have ZERO natural cooking talent. The few times I've tried improvising without one have been disastrous. :-\

daisy_knotwise
Oct. 27th, 2006 10:31 pm (UTC)
minced onion is little flakes of dried onion. Put a couple of table spoons into a measuring cup and cover with hot water and let stand. They re-hydrate and stop being crunchy. You can use fresh onion if you like, but I can't seem to dice it fine enough. So I cheat.
ohiblather
Oct. 27th, 2006 10:34 pm (UTC)
Ah ok, thanks!
daisy_knotwise
Oct. 27th, 2006 10:36 pm (UTC)
You can put it into the mixture, for a dash of spice, but I sprinkle it on top. Like a garnish.

There is nothing talented about it.
All it takes is imagination and the willingness to throw it out if it is yucky.
It really is hard to make deviled eggs yucky.

GHR

ohiblather
Oct. 27th, 2006 10:46 pm (UTC)
re: "It really is hard to make deviled eggs yucky."

Said like a Natural Cook. We Unnatural Cooks may beg to differ on how easy it is to make a supposedly dead simple recipe Yucky. But thank you for your support. :-)
ohiblather
Oct. 27th, 2006 10:48 pm (UTC)
Ask Allison sometime about how I invited her over for dinner one time and made homemade soup for her (soup in which the recipe called basically for throwing things in water and heating everything up) and how we ended up ordering in pizza.
daisy_knotwise
Oct. 27th, 2006 10:29 pm (UTC)
I use plain yellow. A touch of mustard powder will work, too.
But you can use whatever tastes good to you.

GHR
ohiblather
Oct. 27th, 2006 10:34 pm (UTC)
Thanks. Now I'm desperately wishing I had all the ingredients RIGHT NOW so I could make this for my dinner tonight...
billroper
Oct. 27th, 2006 10:54 pm (UTC)
By the way, watch out if you're using Miracle Whip. Kraft has recently cheaped out and changed the formulation. If the label has "Water" as the first ingredient instead of "Oil", you've got the cheap stuff that doesn't set up properly in a lot of cases.

I'm not sure if they changed the formula in Canada though.
ohiblather
Oct. 27th, 2006 10:58 pm (UTC)
Thanks for the warning. We currently have two bottles of mayo in our fridge. The low-fat Miracle Whip for me. The full-fat Hellman's mayo for Jeff. I'll be sure to use the full-fat mayo in the recipe. :-)
mdlbear
Oct. 28th, 2006 04:40 am (UTC)
Yes
msminlr
Oct. 27th, 2006 10:07 pm (UTC)
As a wholebunchafolks said in answer to your previous post:
"But you ARE one of the Cool Kids!"

And as somebody in there observed, we never see our own actual gifts; we mostly see the gifts others have that we wish we had.
catsittingstill
Oct. 28th, 2006 03:23 am (UTC)
FWIW I think you're cool. You and Bill would make me snort pop out my nose if I were so incautious as to drink pop when you're going to perform. I know better now.

I really enjoyed singing for you in the dealers' room this con. I like it when people shine at me like that.
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